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By JOAN AXELROD-CONTRADA

Isn’t it funny how a song can sound completely different depending on your mood, life stage, and views on love? Take “I’m a Believer” by the Monkees, for example.The first time it played, I was a starry-eyed preteen with dreams of Monkee-love. The...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Shame is a topic not easily talked about. And that is why I feel enthusiastic about writing about it. That’s my thing — discussing and writing about topics that we often hold at arm’s length and don’t dare think or talk about.But why am I choosing to...

By AMY NEWSHORE

We all get “triggered” at times in significant relationships with loved ones. This happens when we react so strongly to what the other person is saying or doing that our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are out of proportion to the current situation....

By JOAN AXELROD-CONTRADA

Songs that combine a good metaphor with a bouncy beat rocket me into my word-nerd, ear-worm stratosphere. “Everyday I Write the Book” by Elvis Costello tops my list.How cool to think of our lives as books that we’re writing! Costello frames the song...

By AMY NEWSHORE

All of us have probably decided to end a relationship at some point in our lives, as well as having been in a relationship where we were broken up with.A breakup, separation, or divorce is a pivotal and tender time in one’s life. I’d like to shed some...

By JOAN AXELROD-CONTRADA

Anyone who’s ever kept a journal can relate to the song “Dear Diary” by the Moody Blues.The tune came out in 1969 at the height of my adolescent angst. I poured my misery into a pocket-sized pink diary with a lock to keep away prying eyes. Like the...

By AMY NEWSHORE

Many of us are facing Valentine’s Day with a lack of enthusiasm, to say the least. You may be newly single and are feeling raw and shaky. You may have been on your own for a long time and here you are, solo, once again on this holiday. Or you may find...

By AMY NEWSHORE

It is inevitable that we are going to make mistakes and sometimes hurt others, even those we love. When a relationship has been impacted by harmful words or actions, offering a sincere, heartfelt apology can go a long way toward mending the rupture....

By AMY NEWSHORE

Like sadness, happiness and fear, anger is a natural emotion that is part of the human experience. Our anger can arise in many situations: a traffic jam, an argument with our partner, a bad day at work, or when our kids are not listening to us.Anger...

By CHELSEA KLINE

There’s so much that we can’t control. There are so many sad things unfurling around us and across the headlines that can leave us feeling wrung out and listless.However, I beg that you don’t forget that there’s still so much goodness around us as...

By WALDO MELLON

Dear Waldo,I have been married for 36 years, yet I had never seen my husband cry until his best friend Coco died. At Coco’s funeral, I thought my husband was choking on a bug because it was hot and there were gnats. But then he began whinnying like a...

By AMY NEWSHORE

What is great about you? Do you believe you are lovable, just as you are? Are you proud of having gotten through some struggles? Can you express your feelings and needs, and say “no” when needed? Do you believe you deserve to be happy?You may have...